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Buddha teaches you not to get angry: treat anger as a child

Treat anger as a child

The power of anger is huge, but at the same time, anger is also weak. It is like a baby without self-care ability. It requires your care. This does not mean that you have to support it, but that you have to pay attention to it, guide it, and weaken the evil power it comes with.Just imagine, a baby is crying, what will you do? Will he cry louder? Of course not, you must want him to stop crying, but even if you have such a wish, you may not be able to do it.You should carefully find out the reason why the baby cries. On this basis, find ways to prevent him from crying. If he is hungry, give him food; if he is cold or hot, add clothes or take off his clothes; if he wants to sleep, please coax him to sleep; if his diapers are wet, change him to diapers; if he wants someone to hug him, pick him up. In short, most of the time, there is a reason for the baby crying, and those reasons are very practical, as long as the right medicine is given.The same goes for your own or others’ anger. You must first find the cause of your anger, rather than let it develop freely, thereby causing adverse consequences.

No one wants to be angry. This is a good wish, however, people will also find that anger is a difficult child to control. There are many times when he is willful, but this does not mean that people have no way of doing it.People's body and mind are extremely sensitive to mindfulness, so people need to use mindfulness to care for their anger.This sounds a bit profound, but it is not.If you feel you can't start, it's probably because your understanding is not deep enough, then you need to understand your anger more deeply, divert your attention away, and turn yourself into another person, so as to listen to yourself.People must have confidence in themselves. Resolving anger is not something that only saints can do. Ordinary people can also calm their anger within a certain period of time. The key is whether you can seriously gather positive forces and whether you can use these forces to care for and guide your anger.

Embrace your anger with a kind heart! Don’t treat anger as an enemy, you should regard it as a part of yourself. Since it belongs to you, you must be responsible for it. When it occurs, you have the obligation to take care of it and eventually turn it into the power of good.

A more appropriate metaphor is that your anger is your child.For a child, who knows him best? Of course, his mother.So, of course, the person who knows your anger best is you.Therefore, your anger should be transformed by yourself, just as a child should be taken care of by his mother.When you encounter illness, the person who cares most about you is your mother. She will take care of you gently and meet your needs thoughtfully, allowing you to feel warm in the illness, which will greatly promote your recovery.Then, when your anger strikes, you should also quickly enter the role, approach your anger with real compassion and love, and find out the hidden problems in your anger.A child who lacks maternal love since childhood will lay some psychological hidden dangers during his growth process, and once these hidden dangers are buried, it will be difficult to eliminate.By the same token, anger that lacks guidance and care will develop in a bad direction in the subsequent development process, and the final outcome may be very bad. I believe no one wants to do so.Just as a mother should try to be a good mother, you should also try to be a good caretaker when you are angry.This requires constant training to finally fully understand your anger and the pattern of this anger.

If you want to liberate your mind, the first thing you need to do is to get close to your mind and your anger.You must inject good power into your anger to resolve the power of anger.If you can adjust your physical state in time, such as breathing and other physiological activities, and encourage yourself to smile, it is not so difficult to free your mind from anger.

2024-02-05 18:02
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