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Being a qualified parent is not easy

Tibetan Master 2015-06-22

As a parent, you must first understand: children are people with independent souls.Although children are related to their parents, they have the right not to follow the way you plan, and they should be respected.

Children have their own emotional development process, and in this process, they need the care of their parents like little girls.Until the age of 18, it is a great responsibility for parents to educate their children to be moral and ethical, and to protect their children from doing things that are not good.Note, it’s not about custody, it’s about pressure, it’s about care!Although children always think that they are mature, many of them are immature because they can't even distinguish right from wrong.

If some children are born with naughty and it is difficult to understand right or wrong, tell them to go east, but they go west.At this time, parents should know how to distinguish between rewards and punishments, observe their children's characteristics, and communicate in a way that suits them best and can accept them.Some children have high emotional intelligence and will not be too rational or emotional. It is feasible to influence them in a gentle way.

The biggest challenge facing us Chinese is that society will not help you educate your children.In countries and regions with religious beliefs, it doesn’t matter if a child leaves his parents. The social atmosphere is surrounded by faith, and the educational help provided by society will make parents feel relaxed.But we found that Chinese people generally advocate self-values, and social values ​​are often negative. When children are surrounded by negative energy, it is more difficult to be a parent, because you have to find ways to help your children establish positive, healthy, positive and upward values, and be ready to answer your children’s questions about negative information: Why is this happening?

Therefore, parents should help their children tutor their mental health, teach them how to face social setbacks, and tell them that if you cause setbacks and difficulties to others, you will also face a lot of trouble in the future, and what you give will get.It is the responsibility of parents to tell them the importance of choosing good and evil and cause and effect.

In addition, be caring for your children and not spoil them.When we were young, our parents didn’t care about us at all, or to a certain extent, they were free to stock.Children who grow up in the mud have strong physical immunity and strong psychological endurance.Although there are scars on your head, you won’t get a concussion;The arms and legs may be broken, but they will not be broken.This is very similar to foreign educational methods.

There are some kindergartens opened by foreigners across the country. The parents of these foreign children may be ambassadors, or foreigners who invest and work in China.There are also Chinese children in the kindergarten. They are all dressed cleanly and neatly. Since childhood, their parents have wanted to make them look like little gentlemen and little princess in their words and deeds.What about those foreigners’ children?I dress very casually and often mess myself up in kindergarten.It’s not that they can’t afford to wear or take good care of them, but that they think this is more beneficial to the growth of children.

The educational methods of Chinese parents' excessive care for their children will consume their children's immunity bit by bit.In fact, children’s physical and psychological immunity need to be continuously improved, otherwise how can they face society in the future?Without religious beliefs, no chance to accept setbacks from an early age, no minor harm, agitation, or tantrums between brothers and sisters, and no ability to learn to coordinate each other, how can these children face such a realistic society when they grow up?Parents all know that we do not live in fairy tales.

The same is true for adults. I have a celebrity friend who is depressed whenever he hears someone talking about his right and wrong.Because he has always been so outstanding, he thinks that it is a big deal for someone to criticize him.I told him, “No one touches you and you won’t know how someone pats your head, and you’re almost fainted.But people like us have grown up as if they were hit by someone with an iron hammer since childhood. When they hit it, they were dizzy when they saw the stars in the sky, and they were shaking and found that they were not dead yet. That would be great.This is the question of resistance.”

Many people are now concerned about the lack of masculinity of Chinese boys, because feminism has developed too much in society and mothers are too strong.When you have only one child, it is easy to raise your son as your daughter and raise your daughter as your son.Raising children becomes a means to satisfy parents' desires.

In short, being a qualified parent is not easy.No matter how old a child is, we should be a child who can understand everything and educate him patiently.Right and wrong, we need to clearly point them in the direction, what can be done and what cannot be done.Children need you to help them grow, and you can learn a lot in this process.

2024-02-05 18:05
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